The Bible Verse That Made Me Want To Marry My Wife

"What is love?"

That was the question I asked myself over and over when I was dating the girl who would become my wife. And with Valentine's Day on February 14 right around the corner, you might be asking these sorts of questions too. Is it liking someone a whole lot? What's the difference between loving someone and being in love? And how would I know the difference?

So I asked... and I asked... and I asked. My parents. My pastor. My friends. My co-workers. All the answers were great, but they were all so different. How could I ever check off all those boxes when it came to how I felt with the woman I wanted to marry?

And then one morning a new question came to mind:

What is love... to Jesus?

If I'm being honest, it was a terrifying question.

What if the way I felt didn't measure up?
What if it never did?
And where would I even go for an answer?

I started with all those Bible verses you hear at weddings or see framed on a wall—love is patient, love is kind, it doesn't boast or envy. It all just seemed a bit abstract. I wanted something a little easier to picture.

So I put it out of my mind. I didn't think about it again until skimming through the Bible weeks later. And Ephesians 5:25 stopped me in my tracks. It was like someone shone a spotlight on one verse in particular:

"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her."

There it was in black and white—love wasn't a feeling so much as it was an action that came out of that feeling.

I would know that I loved my wife if I were willing to put her before me.

And I would prove that I loved my wife if I made sacrificesnot just my money or my time but myself.

Jesus loved us so much. He committed everything He had to repairing our relationship with God. He put our happiness and joy before His own. And He proved it by giving Himself up for us.

But best of all, He provides a perfect example of how to do it that encourages us to be better when we get it wrong. (And I get it wrong... a lot.)

Whatever Valentine’s Day is to you, take the opportunity to celebrate this kind of love. Let it be a day where you begin to sacrifice of yourself for the sake of husbands, wives, family, friends, or neighbors.

After all, Jesus said people would know us by our love.

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